Love Isn’t Supposed to Feel Like Anxiety
For a long time, I confused anxiety with love. If someone kept me guessing, I assumed they were complicated. If they were inconsistent, I told myself they were just busy. If I spent hours wondering where I stood, replaying conversations, and checking my phone for a message that never came, I thought it meant I …...
The Strongest Move Was Leaving
There is a common belief that strength is measured by how much you can endure. We admire people who never give up, who keep fighting, who stay committed no matter how difficult things become. While perseverance is a valuable trait, it isn’t always the answer. Sometimes the strongest decision you’ll ever make isn’t...
Love Is Not a Good Enough Reason to Stay
Love is one of the most powerful emotions we’ll ever experience, but it isn’t meant to be the only thing holding a relationship together. Many of us were taught that if the love is real enough, everything else will somehow work itself out. We believe love can overcome dishonesty, repeated disrespect, emotional neglect,...
Mixed Signals Are a Signal
One of the most confusing experiences in dating is trying to make sense of mixed signals. One day they’re attentive, affectionate, and making future plans. The next day they’re distant, inconsistent, or impossible to reach. They tell you they like you, but their actions leave you questioning everything. That’s when most...
The Person Willing to Leave Has the Power
Power is one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships. Most people assume the person with the loudest voice, the strongest personality, or the most money automatically holds all the power. In reality, relationship power often comes down to something much simpler: who is willing to walk away. That doesn’t mean the person...
Missing Them Doesn’t Mean They Belong in Your Life
There is a moment in almost every healing journey when you mistake missing someone for a sign that you’re supposed to go back. The loneliness feels convincing. Their name crosses your mind more often than it has in weeks. You find yourself wondering what they’re doing, remembering the good moments, or questioning whether you...
The Closure Is That They Left
Closure has become one of the most misunderstood ideas in modern relationships. We’ve been taught to believe that healing comes after one final conversation, one heartfelt apology, or one honest explanation that finally makes everything make sense. We wait for the text, the phone call, or the unexpected moment where the other...
Becoming Her Was Never About Looking Better
If you spend enough time on social media, it’s easy to believe that becoming the best version of yourself starts with changing your appearance. A new wardrobe, a different hairstyle, losing weight, or finally mastering your makeup routine can feel like the missing piece. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel...
Consider This Your Sign
How many more signs are you waiting for? It’s a question worth asking because most of us spend far more time searching for certainty than we do listening to ourselves. We tell ourselves we’ll make the decision after one more conversation, one more apology, one more chance, or one more piece of evidence. We wait …...
Before You Get Comfortable Here
Before you get comfortable here, there are a few things you should know. Menace by Tessa isn’t a place for excuses. It isn’t a place for pretending mixed signals are romantic or convincing yourself that the bare minimum deserves applause. It’s not a space where red flags become personality traits simply because someone...
